Let's Get Hitched
Friday, July 19, 2019
“Don’t wait. The time will never be just right.” – Napoleon Hill
Over the past several decades, one statistic keeps creeping up higher and higher. Is it the stock market or America’s GDP? Hardly. Those economic barometers usually increase – or decrease – in fits and spurts.
No, I am referring to the age at which couples get married and when they start a family of their own.
According to the U.S. Census Bureau, the median age at which a woman gets married is now 27.8. For men, that number is even higher at 29.8. Compare that to the 1956 Census, which showed men marrying at 22.5 years old and women at just 20.1.
The age at which women are giving birth for the first time is also rising dramatically. In 2000, that age was 24 years and 11 months. By 2014, it had climbed to 26 years and four months.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not advocating marrying sooner or having babies earlier. That argument cannot be made across the board, simply because there are so many variables. In other words, one size doesn’t fit all.
My singular point is that some, perhaps many, couples are putting off nuptials and parenthood until “just the right time”. But, as Napoleon Hill stated above, “the right time” often never arrives.
If Deanna and I had waited until the “perfect time” to get hitched, I’ll bet it wouldn’t have been when she was 20 and I was 25. The same goes for having kids. We were married in 1985 and Bethany (1987), Matthew (1989), and Christopher (1991) came along in rapid succession.
Personally, I am glad that we started our family so young because I enjoy being an active grandfather. But again, what worked for us doesn’t necessarily work for everyone. The key is seeking God’s will, direction and timetable for everything in your life…and then boldly stepping out in faith.
“To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven.” Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NKJV)
- Rev. Dale M. Glading, President